SEXUALITY.

Nobody can help whether they are born male or female and should never face discrimination because of their gender.  Equally, people should not be discriminated against their sexuality.  Sexuality refers to a person's sexual orientation - whether they are attracted to men or women.

Am i gay or straight?

There is no simple or single answer to this question; we all discover our own sexuality in different ways and at different stages in our lives.  Some people have their first gay experience or relationship when they are young, and others when they are older, some people may freak out when they realise that they fancy someone of the same sex, whilst others take it in their stride..... either way, whatever you feel, it's only natural and you're not alone.

Lesbian - Lesbian is the word used to describe a girl or woman who is emotionally and sexually attracted to other girls or women.

Gay - Gay is the word used to describe a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to people of the same sex.  It is commonly used to describe men and boys who are attracted to other men and boys.

Bisexual - Bisexual is the word used to discribe a person who is emotionally and sexually attracted to both people of the opposite or same sex.  Being bisexual does not mean that you have to like both equally, or that you have to go out with them both.

The only person that can say whether you are gay, lesbian or bisexual is YOU,  there's no right or wrong way to deal with any of this.  The most important question to aks yourself is: who do i feel sexually attracted to - women, men or both? You do not necessarily have to have had sex with someone of the same sex to identify yourself as gay, lesbian or bisexual, it is also about who you feel closest to and connect with emotionally.  So, if you fancy people of the same sex, it's ok,  it's something that human beings do!  As long as you're honest and happy with who you are..... IT'S OK!!!

'Coming out' - is a phrase used to describe the process of someone who is gay, lesbian or bisexual telling other people that they are attracted to people of the same sex. Coming out takes time and it can be a difficult process for some people as they may be concerned that others will treat them differently, that their family may disown them.  Even though it can be scary, for some people, coming out is very important as it mean that they are finally being honest with themselves and not keeping anything hidden.

Who to tell?  When you are ready to come out, the sensible option is to tell someone that you trust and you know will be supportive and understanding.  This person could be your best friend, a family member, a school teacher or youth worker. Hopefully coming out will change things for the better for you.  Many people are happy and relieved that they no longer have to live a lie about themselves.  However, you may come across some people, including your friends and family, who are homophoic (prejudiced against gay, lesbian and bisexual people), this may upset you or make you feel angry, this is why it is important and helpful that you tell people that your really trust and can gain support from.

REMEMBER...... BE HONEST AND HAPPY  BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE

Written by :

Sarah Hines